Colleagues,
MVP: Ask people what they need to be more self-sufficient and they will tell you. Yesterday I suggested helping people become more self-sufficient was sometimes a necessary step in freeing up your own time. I used an example of teaching your kids to fix their own breakfast. How do you do that? Ask them what they need in order to do it themselves. The answers may surprise you:
You won’t know, unless you ask. Today’s intention: Pay attention to the things you do that others could do. Think about what might help people be more self-sufficient, then ask them what they need. Cheers! Frederick
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Colleagues,
MVP: Helping others become more self-sufficient might be the first step to taking care of yourself. Sometimes the whole airplane oxygen mask analogy breaks down. What if the first step to building a better morning routine for yourself is to help your kids become more independent? If they can make their own bowl of cereal, that frees you to invest 5-minutes in quiet breathing. This idea can transfer to many other things. Empowering others is an important strategy for helping you invest more time in your priorities. Today’s intention: What did you do yesterday that someone else could have done? Cheers! Frederick Colleagues,
MVP: We don’t know what traumas people are carrying, but we can assume that many people are carrying traumas. In the past two weeks I have been asked by two different podcast hosts about how we work with people experiencing trauma. These discussions began more specifically with the shooting in Maine and the violence in Gaza, but I thought about the issue of trauma in a more generalized sense. In this time, maybe we should just assume that everyone is experiencing some form of trauma. Our role as leaders is to care for and serve the people we lead. Obviously, we cannot make everyone’s pain go away, but we can do one simple thing to make life incrementally better. BE PRESENT. When I am fully present (physically and mentally), I communicate that I value you. Feeling valued provides salve to people who are hurting. I don’t need to give you advice, I don’t need to share my traumas, I just need to provide you with space. You may share, you may not. I may know your traumas, I may not. Either way, I have communicated I value you, and that is a gift. You can listen to the 15-minute discussion I had with Kay Kolp on her podcast, Practical Intuition with Kay, on Apple and Spotify. Today’s intention: Pause after each interaction today and wonder…
Cheers! Frederick Colleagues,
MVP: Just because something happened last time doesn’t mean it will happen this time. Last week I did the second of two trainings for a group of future teachers. The first training had been less-than-stellar for multiple reasons. Deep inside, I was dreading the second event based on things that had gone wrong in the first training. I worked diligently to improve my attitude and expect a better outcome this time around. The training was awesome, the students were great, we learned and had fun. Be careful about letting expectations drive reality. Today’s intention: What do you think? Can your expectations become self-fulfilling prophecies? If so, how do you promote positive expectations within yourself? Cheers! Frederick Colleagues,
MVP: If we want to be better at helping people make good decisions, we need to learn more about the people and we do that by being present. Today I will wrap up the saga of my crooked pocket door. Recall:
Redoing the door is a four-hour job. Instead, I could:
Which should I do? Of course, you can’t answer because you aren’t me. However, if you ask enough questions, eventually you would be able to give me some guidance. Here is the big take away… Unless we know what’s going on in the lives (work and home) of our colleagues, we should be hesitant about judging them. How do we learn what’s going on? Be fully present. Today’s intention: Identify one or two people who seem to be struggling to manage their priorities. Invest time in them, being fully present. Ask the second question or do some 5-minute coaching. Just ask and listen and learn. Cheers! Frederick |
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